Ashley D Photography
Wedding Guide
engagement session tips, timeline help,
vendor recommendations & more!
Welcome
A NOTE ABOUT THIS GUIDE
– Ashley
Engagement Session
I’m a big fan of engagement sessions for a few reasons. Not only do they allow you to get comfortable in front of the camera, they also give you the opportunity to showcase your personalities in a more casual setting that is significant to the two of you. I’ve created an entire page dedicated to outfit tips, location ideas, timing considerations and more
Vendors
WHO WILL MAKE YOUR DAY INCREDIBLE
Over the years, I’ve learned the important role quality vendors play in creating a stress-free wedding day. I’ve worked with many of the vendors below and I can’t recommend them enough! This is not a paid list – I chose these vendors for both the quality of their work as well as their professionalism on the actual wedding day.
Wedding Planners
Is a First Look Right for You?
IF YOU’RE WONDERING WHETHER A FIRST LOOK IS RIGHT FOR YOU, STOP HERE.
That moment the Wedding Couple see each other for the first time on their wedding day is magical. And this is true whether the couple chooses to wait until they walk down the aisle or choose to do a “first look’ prior to the ceremony.First looks—a private moment couples choose to spend together prior to the wedding ceremony—have become more popular over the last few years. About half of my couples this year have chosen to do a first look.
While I enjoy and love those weddings who value tradition, there are definitely a few good reasons to consider a first look. Here are 3 reasons to consider a ‘first look’:
1. A FIRST LOOK CUTS THROUGH THE CHAOS OF THE DAY.
Once the ceremony begins, the day takes off quickly. A ‘first look’ is an opportunity to enjoy some quiet time alone, enjoy each other’s company, and reflect on all this day means before your day takes off.
Wedding days can be a whirlwind and they tend to fly by. There’s much to do, and a lot of people to see and to catch up with. I always encourage our couples to take a few minutes every so often during their wedding to stop and soak in everything that’s happening.
2. IT MAKES MORE TIME FOR PICTURES WITHOUT SACRIFICING COCKTAIL HOUR.
When there is no first look, the majority of the pictures have to be taken after the ceremony. Family pictures are generally done as soon as the ceremony ends because it’s the easiest time to round everyone up. Next up is full bridal party, and then Wedding Couple portraits. This generally runs into cocktail hour.
A first look opens up time prior to the ceremony for full bridal party pictures and, sometimes, for a few Wedding Couple portraits (although I prefer to do these portraits at sunset). This allows the couple to get the most out of cocktail hour, which makes the rest of the evening feel less rushed.
3. AVOID POSSIBLE BAD WEATHER AND/OR HAVE TIME TO FRESHEN-UP AFTER CRYING
If you’re expecting poor weather on your wedding day, it might be best to plan on a first look because it gives you more options for pictures. If it’s pouring rain after the ceremony, you’ll be thankful you had pictures done in advance.
And reason 3b is for all you cryers out there. If you know the tears are going to fly the first time you see your other half the day of your wedding, a first look will give you time to freshen up before the ceremony.
First look or not, the first time you see each other on your wedding day will be special.
building the perfect
Wedding Day Timeline
WHETHER YOU’RE PLANNING A FIRST LOOK OR STICKING WITH TRADITION AND NOT SEEING YOUR PARTNER UNTIL YOU WALK DOWN THE AISLE, I HAVE TIPS TO HELP MAKE PLANNING YOUR TIMELINE AS EASY AS POSSIBLE!
Whether you choose to do a first look or the traditional “no see before the ceremony” I will work with you on making sure you have the best timeline and plan for images.
If you’re choosing to go traditional, you’ll need two different sets of photo times: images taken before the ceremony and images taken after the ceremony. You’ll need to plan for about one hour of pre-ceremony photos with one wedding party and family and about one hour of pre-ceremony photos with the other wedding party and family at separate times. You’ll also need 15 minutes of combined wedding party portraits, 15 minutes of combined family portraits and at least 30 -45 minutes of couple’s portraits after the ceremony if you’re not doing any portraits together until after the ceremony.
If you’re doing a first look, photos can be done all at one time, taking an average total of 2 hours pre-ceremony (although I also LOVE grabbing just the two of you for a few additional bride and groom photos at sunset!)
If you choose a traditional aisle reveal, all I ask is that you keep your ceremony time in mind when planning your wedding.
If you’re planning a sunset ceremony or an evening ceremony, it’s best to do all photos before the wedding, as daylight is crucial to getting amazing portraits for your families, wedding party and your couples portraits. Making sure we have enough time while the sun is up is a great way to make the traditional ceremony work.
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Rain Tips
If the forecast is calling for rain, fear not because rainy days can still be beautiful! If you don’t believe us, just take a look at Abbey & Austins wedding day. It rained the entire day and it was still beautiful!
If rain is in the forecast, I recommend ordering a few clear umbrellas on Amazon. It also might be good to re-evaluate portrait locations to make sure we can still shoot in natural light – even if it means heading offsite.
If you don’t own a pair of cute Wellies, now may be a great time to order a pair – even if you’re just wearing them in between shooting locations.
If you’re not working with a planner, it might also be a good idea to check in with your entire vendor team to make sure they’re aware of the weather. Hair and makeup may need to be tweaked to withstand humidity and if your wedding is outdoors, DJs and bands may need to take extra precaution to protect their gear. A quality rental team can also minimize the amount of mud at outdoor events.
While I can’t guarantee that rain on your wedding day is good luck, I can put a plan in place to ensure a beautiful day and beautiful images.
Rainy day weddings may require a little more flexibility and creativity, but there isn’t any reason why they can’t be as beautiful and as joyful as sunny weddings!
Wedding Day Details
I love capturing all the little details you’ve carefully chosen to be a part of your wedding day! Once I arrive at your wedding, I need about 30 minutes to capture and style details. I recommend choosing a getting ready location filled with natural light and, if possible, please keep the space free from trash and clutter.
It would be wonderful if you could put all of your rings, jewelry, shoes, veil purse, perfume, invitations and other keepsakes together in one spot for me. Please unwrap your dress but don’t worry about styling it – I’ll hang it in a beautiful spot!
BRIDAL DETAILS CHECKLIST
- Dress
- Dress Hanger
- Rings (both engagement and wedding bands)
- Veil
- Bouquet
- Ring
- Hair pieces
- Jewelry
- Invitation Suite ( 2 full sets with envelopes + stamps)
- Any other paper stationary you may have like program cards.
- DressVow Book
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Any other sentimental keepsakes you would like to include
I once had a bride bring her grandmother's handkerchief. This is completely optional - but if you have something sentimental you'd like styled with your details, I love including family heirlooms in your detail shots. - Bonus: I'd love to have a few cuts of the florals you'll be using throughout your wedding day. If your florist will supply a small bucket of extra pieces I can incorporate those in your detail shots.
GROOM DETAILS CHECKLIST
- His shoes
- Socks (if they're special)
- Cuff Links
- Tie or Bow Tie
- Pocket Square
- Boutonnière
- Rings
- Anything else he'll have that is special or sentimental.
The Rings
When I can, I always try to take a photo of your rings while you’re getting ready. If possible, try to have your engagement ring cleaned or clean it yourself. To clean at home, soak your ring in warm water with dishwashing soap for 20 to 40 minutes. Then gently brush the stone with a soft toothbrush, rinse and repeat if needed.
Family Formals
YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY, DRESSED UP AND TOGETHER
For family portraits, I’ll place you in the center of a large group photo with all of your grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings, godparents, etc. (if you want) And then I’ll remove the extended family so it’s just grandparents, parents and siblings.
I’ll keep removing family members and switch a few closer family members in and out so we get photos of you and your parents, you and your siblings, some with your spouse and your family, etc. Then I’ll repeat the process with your spouse’s family. The whole thing will go quicker and smoother if you let family know how the portrait process will work ahead of time.When we have our pre-wedding consult, I’ll ask you for a list of specific groupings, special situations (such as divorces or handicapped family members & more), but if you want to start brainstorming photos in the meantime, you’ll find my typical list below.
PORTRAIT SESSION CHECKLIST
- Wedding Couple + Extended Family (Each side)
- Wedding Couple + Parents+ Siblings +Grandparents (Each Side)
- Wedding Couple + Parents + Sibling (Each Side)
- Wedding Couple + Parents (Each Side)
- Wedding Couple + Siblings (Each Side)
- Each with Their Mom
- Each with their Dad
Please note that this list is just a starting point and that I’m more than happy to take any requested family portraits as long as time allows!
Additional Tips
AFTER SHOOTING MORE THAN 120 WEDDINGS IN THE PAST FEW YEARS, I’M HAPPY TO SHARE A FEW ADDITIONAL TIPS
1. If you’re getting married in the summer months, a “not-so-heavy” snack or lunch time before portraits is always a good idea for you and your bridal party to avoid hungry bellies and passing out!
2. If it’s going to be hot, a cooler of cold waters and frozen washcloths can help keep a wedding party cool – especially if your men are wearing lots of layers.
3. Make sure and have your bouquet delivered in time to make an appearance for the detail shots and for your first look. Often they are delivered in water and need to be dried off before use. Having towels handy can help.
4. If you’re planning on having a first look with your bridal party or a parent, they often feel more comfortable being fully dressed in their wedding attire.
5. If your reception is at a separate venue, add some “fluff time” so that I can run over to the venue to capture it while it’s still “untouched” by guests.
6. I always recommend the bride go into hiding 30 minutes before the ceremony at the absolute latest. Guests typically arrive early to weddings.
7. To help make family portraits go smoother, it’s best to have a breakdown of what portraits you’d like and it’s really wonderful if both sides of the family have a chance to have their input on what portraits they’d like before the wedding. Supplying us with a list ahead of time, we can go over it and make sure we shoot things in an order that is efficient and won’t leave anyone out.
8. During the cocktail hour and the reception, I’ll follow you around. Anytime you’d like a photo with someone, grab our attention. I love being your personal paparazzi!
9. I’d love to help you plan your timeline. If you’d like my input, don’t hesitate to email or call!
10. Consider unplugging. I understand that your guests are excited to be at your wedding. However, having an unplugged ceremony really helps your guests focus on what is important and not their screen. It also helps with photos so I am not having to compete for getting the “good shot”.
Albums
THE PERFECT WAY TO REMEMBER YOUR WEDDING DAY
One of the best ways to make your wedding memories last is by ordering an album. These high quality professionally designed albums come in a variety of linen & leather colors. They’re modern, lay perfectly flat and look incredible on a coffee table.
THANK YOU!
I can’t wait to start planning with you and getting to know you! If you haven’t scheduled your engagement session yet, let’s get that in the books. Feel free to email me any time at hello@photosbyashleyd.com
If you have any questions or would just like to chat, I’m here for you. We hope this guide helps make the process of planning your wedding details much easier and less stressful. I can’t wait to see you soon! Thank you so much for taking the time to read through the guide!
